Author Archives: Barbara Stark

Your Divorce Mediation Coach – Part I

       All mediators recommend (or should recommend) that you get your own individual legal advice as a part of the divorce mediation process.
       You may ask why this is necessary since you are mediating your divorce in part to “avoid divorce lawyers”. Won’t hiring separate attorneys defeat the goal of mediation to save costly attorney [...]

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Oh the divorces!

Oh the Divorces
Tracey Thorn released this song to begin her new album in April, but somehow its only now caught up with me … worth a listen …..

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What are the limitations on home mortgage deductions?

Guest post by Joseph DeCusati, CPA, ASA, CFE – Senior Business Valuation Analyst  – Meyers, Harrison and Pia

In some divorces, particularly with a high net worth, all of the mortgage interest of the individual may not be deductible. IRS Publication 936 offers specific guidance in that regard. On page 3 of IRS Publication 936 [...]

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On-Line Parenting Education

Connecticut requires parents in divorces and other family  matters involving children to take a mandatory parenting education course. The six hour course is designed to educate parents to help the children adjust to their changing family situation in a healthy way.         
The course includes:

Information about children’s developmental stages and how divorce impacts children differently depending on [...]

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Medicare – Where to get information and help

On January 21, 2010 I attended a talk, “Medicare and You: DeCoding the Plan” sponsored by The Transition Network in New York City.
The speaker was Susan Batkin, Director of Casework at the Medicare Rights Center. Her presentation was very informative as she sorted out the morass of Medicare, Medicaid, Medicare Prescription Drug plans, Medigap, and [...]

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What is a Divorce Coach and Why Would I need One?

Guest post by Linda A. Keller,  LCSW,  LMFT
“He is furious that she introduced the kids to her boyfriend and he is digging in his heels.”
“She won’t meet with him in the same room and the case is about to blow up.””Their original parenting plan had no specifics, and they fight with each other like alley [...]

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New Standing Orders for CT Divorce Cases

Divorce mediation and collaborative professionals should be aware of ew standing orders in Connecticut divorce cases effective December 1, 2009.
Each new divorce case in CT is assigned a Case Management Date. The parties to the case need to report the status of the case to the court by that date: ready to [...]

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Payment of College Expenses – Blanchard v. Blanchard

Blanchard v. Blanchard 47 Conn.L.Rptr. 90 (1/14/09)
ISSUE: Payment of college expenses.
FACTS: The parties agreed to share equally college expenses (defined in the agreement) for their children not to exceed the cost of UCONN. The agreement included the following provision:
“All grants and scholarships … shall be applied first towards such college expenses and the balance equally assumed by the [...]

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Division of Defined Benefit Plans – Chen v. Chen

Chen v. Chen, 47 Conn.L.Rptr 195 (2/17/08) – Hartford Superior Court
ISSUE: Division of defined benefit plans.
FACTS:
1) The parties’ dissolution agreement included the following clause:
The parties shall divide the total balance of their retirement accounts with the Plaintiff retaining 50% and the Defendant retaining 50%. The agreement failed to provide a date of valuation and failed to address what [...]

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Approaches to Divorce

“Kitchen Table Negotiation”
The spouses negotiate the terms of their own divorce settlement. The parties can either fill out the Dissolution Agreement form provided by the court on their own (not recommended) or one party can hire an attorney to prepare the agreement and the other documents needed to finalize the divorce. The divorce agreement is [...]

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